Someone said really kind words to me today.
None of us are psychic. For sure, sometimes we have a very clear sense of what a good choice for us is, especially the longer we live life and have more life experience with things. But sometimes, we really don't, so we make a given choice, and then we find out. And we may find out it was a choice that felt best for us, or find out that it wasn't. It's in the second situation we become unforgiving.
No book exactly mentions feelings prepared to be surprised, or to experience feelings positive or negative - that we weren't expecting. Because sometimes we will be surprised by our reactions and feelings, and that isn't always easy. But it's important to remember that we don't always have all the information we need to make a decision, including the ability to see into the future.
And I agree. Blaming the self is the most damaging and meanest thing one can do to one’s own sense of worth.
None of us are psychic. For sure, sometimes we have a very clear sense of what a good choice for us is, especially the longer we live life and have more life experience with things. But sometimes, we really don't, so we make a given choice, and then we find out. And we may find out it was a choice that felt best for us, or find out that it wasn't. It's in the second situation we become unforgiving.
No book exactly mentions feelings prepared to be surprised, or to experience feelings positive or negative - that we weren't expecting. Because sometimes we will be surprised by our reactions and feelings, and that isn't always easy. But it's important to remember that we don't always have all the information we need to make a decision, including the ability to see into the future.
And I agree. Blaming the self is the most damaging and meanest thing one can do to one’s own sense of worth.
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